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redefining the southern belle

July 31, 2014

I was so excited to be a part of a fun and eye-opening article this month in Greenville's TALK magazine

Redefining the Southern Belle

The article is written by my friend, Sangeeta Hardy. Sangeeta has a wonderful way with words. In the article, she effortlessly explains how the modern day southern belle contrasts from the southern women of our past and the quintessential "Scarlett O' Hara". I was thrilled to be a part of her review of the new Southern belle. Sangeeta is such a creative. Everyone should read her blog, "Gridiron for Girls". (A Girl's Giude to Football) Click here to check it out! 

Here is her TALK article below! 

 

Redefining the Southern belle

 

Sangeeta Hardy

Harrison Blackford, a local Greenville artist and belle, says it best about a Southern belle: "She can just as easily be seen wearing heels, sipping wine at an art opening as she can be seen in boots, drinking beer at a concert."

When we say "Southern belle" one person inevitably comes to mind — Scarlett O'Hara. The "Gone With the Wind"heroine is the quintessential portrait of the traditional Southern belle, sitting on the front porch of her family's Georgia plantation in hoop skirts, playing coy with the Tarleton twins.

This image has come to define Southern belles, but what about the modern Southern belle?

We started with the most obvious sources of information we could think of: the women all around us. We asked these vibrant and intelligent women, all talented and accomplished in their own ways, and it became pretty obvious the Southern belle is alive and well, albeit in many incarnations.

Strength of spirit

There is a stereotype that exists (mostly outside of the South), that Southern women are weak, but when asked to define the modern Southern belle, strength of spirit was a part of almost every answer. Some of our favorite responses were, "she's not a daisy who is just going to fall over," "she puts people in their places without cussing, or breaking a smile" and "she stands up for herself without putting others down."

For the last 40 years moms across the country have been teaching their daughters they have voices and it was time to be heard. Southern moms taught their girls the same lesson but with the advice that they didn't have to be loud or abrasive to be heard. As a result, the new Southern belle knows how to exude strength without having to stomp her feet. This art is what we in the South call "grace" and just as this was very much a part of defining Southern women of the past, it is still the defining characteristic of Southern women today.

Fashion

While strength of spirit defines the inside of the new Southern belle, fashion is her outward statement to the world. The modern Southern belle has kicked the old rules to the curb and become a beautiful hybrid of elegance and grit. No two of them have the same style, yet all of them are stylish. Sure, we still see some of the old favorites – Jack Rogers sandals and Lily Pulitzer dresses spring to mind. However we are just as like to see a Lily Pulitzer dress worn with a pair of cowboy boots. Harrison Blackford, a local Greenville artist and belle, said it best: "She can just as easily be seen wearing heels, sipping wine at an art opening as she can be seen in boots, drinking beer at a concert."

While the dress code has become more relaxed, there remains the sense that Southern women always put effort into their appearances, even when the result seems effortless. Even when running out for a quick errand, these girls take the time for a quick swipe of lipstick and maybe a pearl or two. Where does this need come from? Some might think it is because "you never know who you are going to run into" and while that is true, for most of us it's more about feeling comfortable in our own skin. We have learned that the feeling of confidence on the inside is made even stronger when we feel comfortable with what we are projecting on the outside. Yes, even when we're just picking up our dry-cleaning.

Manners (aka "The Rules")

Meggie Bradberry, mom, entrepreneur and Southern belle, gave us a single but very telling response: "Manners! Yes ma'am!"

Today's Southern belle may have evolved in terms of attitude and look, but one tradition is still held sacred. Manners. A conversation on the subject will no doubt produce a few tried and true rules, and these days, some thoughts on some others that are no longer written in ink.

Never to be broken

  • Any question posed by an elder must be answered with a "yes, sir" or "no, ma'am." This is not optional.
  • Always RSVP in a timely manner.
  • Thank-you notes are required any time someone gives a gift or invites you for an overnight stay.
  • Never show up empty-handed when someone invites you into her home. Always bring a bottle of wine or a little gift for the hostess.

A little wiggle room

  • We used to say that white should never be worn after Labor Day or before Easter unless you are a bride. To this we say, why not? It has already been established that the modern Southern belle makes her own rules when it comes to style, and this is no exception.
  • Traditional Southern belles will tell you that while it is completely acceptable to drink, one should never walk around with a drink and that the drink should always be brought to them. But the modern Southern belle is not afraid to do things for herself. While it is nice to indulge in the art of chivalry, and it is always appreciated, Southern girls these days are perfectly comfortable ordering their own drinks.

Career and family

In the days of Scarlett O'Hara, all women were meant to do was stay in the home and care for their husbands and children. We asked around about how the Southern belle has evolved even from their mothers' generations:

  • She sends her kids to day care when they are younger because she works outside the home.
  • She is waiting longer to get married and have children because she is working on her personal ambitions or simply just enjoying life for herself.
  • She encourages her children to follow their dreams versus telling them what they can and should be.
  • She goes out to eat rather than cooking a full meal every night.

Southern women are traditionally caretakers, and that has not changed. The difference is that these days they are actually taking the time to take care of themselves as well as others. Whether it is taking time to pursue a hobby, volunteering for a cause that is close to the heart, focusing on a career, or even just taking some time to get coffee with a friend, Southern women are looking for ways to put themselves first, even if just for a moment.

Food

Just like many other cultures, the Southern culture focuses around food. The preparation of food is still very much a part of being a Southern woman. However, just as the modern belle is evolving, so is the food she is cooking. Southern women are looking for healthier alternatives to the foods they grew up eating and reading more labels than ever before.

That said, comfort food is still alive and well in the South and for the Southern belle.

"The modern Southern belle eats kale on Monday and a cheeseburger on Saturday," Blackford says.

And we all know that there are some problems that only a healthy serving of homemade mac-n-cheese can solve.

The modern Southern belle is not just one type of girl. She can be short or tall, rich or poor, married or single, or even me, an Indian girl born in Alabama to immigrant parents. While we have broken all of the traditional rules, there are still the essential qualities that tie us to the Southern belles of the past: grace and gentleness with the hint of fire that makes us a force to be reckoned with.

If Scarlett O'Hara were here today I like to think she would say something like this: "The more things change, the more they stay the same."

 


back in the groove

July 30, 2014

I am back in the studio after an awe-inspiring trip to Maine, Nantucket, and Martha's Vineyard. Feelin' like painting some boats in the next few months!!!


the frame

July 9, 2014

Deciding on a frame for a painting can be a daunting task at times. For me, the color scheme/look/tone of a painting often determines what direction I want to take with a frame. On the other side of things, sometimes the atmosphere and formality/informality of a room deciphers the frame. I am a BIG believer that there is a perfect frame for each painting, if needed...the perfect partner in crime to make a stunning statement on the wall, a WOW moment. However, I am also a big advocate for leaving pieces unframed. Frequently, the painting is all you need and makes enough of an accent on the wall. Larger abstract paintings can lend themsleves toward a unframed look or a more minimalist syle of frame. Don't overpower something that is already taking up a large portion of your wall. You never want to take away from the painting itself. Good luck in your framing! Here's to beautiful walls!

A few of my favorite frames...


baja ballad

June 26, 2014

This is a new painting that will be used for a special project with two FAB interior designers...news coming soon!

I had some fun today playing around with fabrics...

"Baja Ballad"

30 x 30

Acrylic on canvas 


riviera

June 25, 2014

Here is my latest commission...love how it works with all their fabrics. Coral, turquoise blues, lime greens - YUM.

Lovin' life on the Riviera...


outside the box fine art

June 23, 2014

I had a wonderful time in Charleston last Thursday night celebrating the launch of Outside the Box Fine Art. Check them out and their redefined way of collecting fine art! Congrats Molly and Mary Hull!!!

www.otbfineart.com


southern coterie

June 11, 2014

Very excited to be featured on the Southern Coterie blog today! Check it out, click here.

CREATIVITY - IN THE STUDIO 

WITH ARTIST HARRISON BLACKFORD
 

The Southern Coterie is the social network of the SOUTH…  an online community where southerners and all those who love the south can connect, congregate and converse about the things that matter to us most!

It’s a circle of friends with common and similar interests - in this case the south.  It's an exciting collaborative effort celebrating the South and the people, places and things that encompass our location and unique lifestyle.  It’s the place where we can share with one another and learn from each other just as we do with our friends.  So, please consider us your friends and keep reading to learn more about us and our fabulous "C-Team"!

The Southern Coterie is your connection and curator to the southern life and landscape - from Athens to Asheville, Birmingham to Baton Rouge, Charleston to Chattanooga, Charlottesville to Chapel Hill, Dallas to DC, Jackson to Jacksonville, Lexington to Little Rock, Macon to Memphis, the Atlantic Ocean to the Gulf of Mexico and all points in between.

Whether searching for the hottest restaurants in Charleston, finding the perfect spot for a seaside wedding on 30-A, sharing grandmother’s famous recipe for pimento cheese, learning more about the oyster men of Appalachia Bay, listening to the Blind Boys of Alabama sing an amazing rendition of "Amazing Grace",  discussing the Dawgs, Tide, Tigers or Gamecocks,  perusing photos of our southern landscape or reading your favorite southern blogger, The Southern Coterie is the place to go to learn, ask questions, share experiences and communicate with our friends.

 


tone of the room

June 9, 2014

I strongly believe that a painting creates the tone and mood of a room. Whether the walls are stark white or lacquered in black, a painting pops off that color and creates the character and color scheme for the space. I prefer a painting to not exactly "match" its surroundings...it makes the painting the focal point and interest of the area.

Below are a couple spaces where I believe the paintings set the atmosphere and make the room.


happening on instagram

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